Monday, 27 August 2012

Pretty Prince Edward County: Part One

The Engineer and I are on a mission to explore our new home province of Ontario.

Well, to be exact, I am on a mission and the Engineer is along for a ride.

This past weekend, our adventure took us to Prince Edward County - about two and a half hours east of the city.

Prince Edward County is known for Sandbanks Provincial Park, a burgeoning food scene, and wineries/cider houses/distilleries/breweries.

I think it also holds some sort of historical significance with the Loyalists but I was sampling too much of the latter to really notice.

Here's the thing with lake country/summer retreats in Ontario:  book early.  As in a year in advance if possible.  But you might be more or less screwed if you are like the Engineer and I:  avec pooches.

Pet friendly accommodation is always slightly gross.



Needless to stay, I found an affordable room in a motel (as Manny says in Modern Family:  Comfort always goes down when the 'h' is replaced with an 'm').  I must say the place, Merland Cottages, was spotless.  Albeit right out of 1962.  Also there was a rather boisterous family reunion of a Latin-Canadian family in the adjoining cottages.  And a young child was in the room next to us and the walls were beyond thin.  My peaceful weekend by the lake was not happening at Merland Cottages.

I went the night before the Engineer could get there.  Which left me to do whatever I fancied.

I was at a loss.

And then I remembered the Taste Trail.


I fully intended to eat/drink my way through this taste trail over the weekend.  Who wouldn't?  It's called TASTE trail.  Sounds delicious.


First stop?  The Tall Poppy Cafe in Wellington.  Unfortunately for my stomach, I wasn't actually hungry.  Shocking, I know.


So I picked up two butter tarts (fully intended to give one to the Engineer) and a house-brewed iced tea.


I would highly recommend it.  Firstly, this one road town is quaint and lovely.  Secondly, the baked goods should be enough to bring anyone back.  Thirdly, their brunch menu appears delicious AND Tall Poppy is one of the only food establishments in the area with a brunch menu.




I took my butter tart, iced tea, and panting poochies to a nearby beach to watch the sunset and gorge myself on brown sugar goodness.









I ate both.


Whoops.


We headed back to Merland Cottages and hoped not to be murdered in our sleep. Where I promptly fell asleep and awaited the morning of tasty treats.

Random Barn

Lovely old barn now houses weddings



I got up early <shock> and my early I mean eight.  The dogs and I headed to Taste Trail taste #2 in Bloomfield. 


Doesn't the name of the town say it all?  Bloomfield.  It says I am a cute little town where people smile from their knitting on front porches and little girls sip lemonade while watching the clouds.  I saw both of these things.


While eating my croissant and (yes, and) a vanilla glazed cinnamon bubble bun from Marshmallow Room Bakery. Clearly the name of this place won me over from the beginning.  And it did not disappoint. Inside the bakery there was a myriad of warm baked goodness.  From french bread (sampled - divine) to pecan pie (sampled as well.  INCREDIBLE) to homemade jams & jellies.  With a hot coffee, some warm pastry and the early morning sun warming me up - I sat on the porch and watched the life of this quaint little town. 




That was clearly full of tourists. 


But it was still quaint.


By this time, the Engineer arrived and we set out to Sandbanks Provincial Park. 

Well, first we stopped off for Taste Trail #3:  Buddha Dog.

A gourmet hot dog restaurant that I loved but didn't impress my Costco-all-beef-hot-dog-loving-husband.  Mine was delicious.  A homemade wiener/sausage with Gouda and wine & red-pepper jelly.  YUM!  I would never think to put a red-pepper jelly on a hot dog but it's fabulously delicious.



All hot dogged up, we got back on the road for the park.



I must say I am in love with this park.  It's a mix of farmsteads, meadows and a sweet meandering road along the shore of Lake Ontario.  With three beach areas to head to.  Apparently everyone goes to Outlet Beach - so we avoided that.  And all the kids go to the Dunes Beach - so we avoided that as well. Which left us Sandbank Beach - and the only stretch of beach that is dog friendly.


I also must preface this by saying that the Engineer and I are not beach people. 


Except this beach!  Being the dog part of the beach, it was sparsely populated (I shouldn't share this secret but I only have three readers so it's okay:   aim for the dog part of any beach you go to and you will find you will be very much alone).


This beach is wonderful. There are sloping dunes (very much reminding me of Cape Cod), super fine, soft sand and the water feels like you are at the ocean without the peskiness of salt water.  Waves do crash but the water is shallow so you can body surf without fearing you will drown (maybe this is just me?).




But as I said, we are not beach people so we came terribly prepared.


I looked at the picnic table near us and they were clearly pros.  They came early and scored a table that was shaded by a tree.  They also came with important things.  Like snacks and chairs. 


And a big blanket. 


A big blanket that Mr. Mop made himself at home on.


Ugh, this dog is a disaster at the beach.  I let him off-leash only because his recall is so good.  However, I always forget that water makes him act like a three-year old boy who was just eaten cotton candy.


He ran into the water and then proceeded to run along the beach, rolling in the sand.  THEN he ran to this big blanket, plopped himself in the middle of it and began to rub his wet, sand-ridden body all over it.


Luckily, the beach pros were also dog owners and thought this hilarious.  All the nearby beach bums also laughed at him (he was making his weird growling noises of pleasure) and quipped he was full of 'personality'.


He gets that so much. I know what that means. What a funny little badly behaved terrier. 


As much as the Engineer and I wanted to enjoy the beach, we were sadly lacking in food & chairs and our dogs were both rolling and rubbing themselves in the sand.


We decided to leave and stock up on supplies.


And eat at Taste Trail #4:  Agrarian Cheese Market.  Okay, this place isn't officially on the Taste Trail (I don't know what/why the places that are on the trail are on and others are not), but it should be tasted.  After all, the menu is gourmet grilled cheese sandwiches. 


YES PLEASE!


We went in with the intention of sharing a sandwich (mostly because the Engineer was shocked at the $10 price tag of a sandwich) but then we couldn't agree on the same sandwich.  And let's face it, I can always eat a full grilled cheese sandwich to myself.




I had the Blue & Frere Jacques with spicy wine jelly (again with the wine jelly!) and the Engineer the 'Sassy Sausage Surprise' which was onion cheddar, sausage and chipotle lime mustard.   As suspected, both were incredibly yummy and have inspired me to be more creative with grilled cheese.  Although Kraft singles do make damn good sandwiches.






I also had watermelon sangria. OH. MY. WORD.  SOOooooo good!  I would have loved a few more glasses but it was the middle of the afternoon and we had to go back to the beach sans dog.



By the time we got our act together, we got to the beach at about 4:30.  Just when everyone was leaving. 


Perfect.


We snacked on a picnic of baguette (Marshmallow Bakery), chicken liver mousse (Agrarian), meat, some more cheese, Pimm's, and the pecan pie and fruit crumble (Marshmallow Bakery).






Which brought us up to sunset on the lovely beach. 





Honestly, this lake is so big that it's hard to remember it's a lake.  With the waves crashing and the water a bright blue, we really felt we were in Nantucket or even somewhere tropical. 


Definitely fell in love a bit more with Ontario as the sun went down on a wonderful day.

- Until next time,  Mrs. Law




Tuesday, 21 August 2012

The Compromise Stuff is Bull*@&)

Life is full of compromises.

That is what they tell me.

I am an only child.

Enough said.

Therefore, upon entering my marriage, I have discovered this new thing called 'compromise'.  I mean, I knew it existed before we got married.  I just didn't believe in it.

Basically, before we got married, the biggest 'plight' of our relationship was when I got two dogs on the same day (that's right, you heard me.  TWO dogs, SAME day).

Look at how much they love each other!  HA!

It's very hard to get them in the same picture OR look at the camera


The Engineer was really upset by this.  He felt I should have consulted him, blah blah blah. Because apparently me getting dogs changed our lifestyle.

We were even counselled on this issue.

I should mention our councellor was my co-host on Wedding Belles and her 'office' was a sushi restaurant.  So not exactly a relationship expert (in fact, I believe halfway through our 'heated discussion' she smiled and said "Do you think me and X will ever argue like this?").  Pretty much worst relationship therapist ever really.



I felt that there was no ring on my left finger and we did not share lodgings.  Therefore, my decisions were by own.  And if he liked it/wanted an opinion he should put a ring on it.


So he did.

And now he LOVES the dogs!  And they really love him. They are such weirdos sometimes


And now we have to compromise. About everything.

I have heard women say things like "Oh my husband/partner/cat doesn't care or have an opinion" or men saying things like "happy wife = happy life" (advice given to my husband on our wedding day that he chooses to constantly ignore when I want my way).

Nope. Not in my house.

It seems that only when I have a strong opinion about something does the Engineer feel the need to totally hate it and suddenly have an opinion.

The first true test came when buying a house.

I fell in love with a church convert townhouse when we first moved to Toronto just over a year ago.  I loved the sense of history & statlieness about the home (I am obsessed with living in a converted church and not being particularily - read not at all - religious, I don't know why exactly.  I also would like to live in a converted barn and I am not a cow).  It had brick walls, stained glass and a cute little view of a steeple.  I was in LOVE with this place.  The Engineer?  Meh.

Swanwick Heritage Lofts


He fell in love with a trailer.



Okay, not really, but he did suggest buying one to live in while we save up for a real house.

He did fall in love with a house that I thought was 'meh'. 

So there we were.  Neither budging.

We had to <gasp> compromise. On a townhouse that has yet to be built and we haven't seen.



Boy. I sure hope we like it.

This was actually a huge challenge.  Even though my parents did say no to me growing up, I often inevitably got my own way.  I am used to getting what I want due to sheer determination.   Too bad for me, so does the Engineer.

I'm actually glad our marriage isn't that "whatever the wife says goes" sort of relationship because it challenges me to not throw a hissy fit and makes me learn how to agree on something together.

There have been things I force on the Engineer. 

Like a hot pink lamp that he thinks looks like a bottle of Pepto Bismol. 

#8 (and I pretty much like all these things) Canada.com


Or throw pillows - remember that debacle?  Or a mattress cover.

When the hot pink lamp stayed in the home this was the Engineer's compromise:  "You can keep the lamp as long as you know I am going to put something in the house that you think is ugly".

I guess I'll take my chances.  So far I have been able to move his NYU Beer Stein to a drawer and gave his BC Hyrdro hockey trophy to his friend (who also happens to be married to one of my closest friends.  Sorry C!).

So in buying this house we faced our first compromise challenge. 

And now it's time to pick the finishings.

Help us.

We survived the bathroom & kitchen cupboards.  Not that it wasn't a <bit> of a battle.  I now hate it when he just says 'no' to not liking something. He has to tell me why he doesn't like it (this exercise came when naming our future children.  Something I do often.  I love the name Charlotte.  He hated it.  After a while I discovered it was because he didn't like the way 'lotte' looked.  WHAT?  But he liked the sound of it.  So now he has come around when he realized that was the dumbest reason not to like a name).

I wanted high-gloss white for all the cupboards.  I got the bathrooms.  We chose shaker white for the kitchen.  And if those things prove difficult to clean I know who to blame.  I also got an extra drawer for the bathroom!  WOOHOO!  He saw the sense in a drawer where I could put all his crap and not look at it.  Now he will know where to find his nose-hair trimmer.

While watching a makeover show on HGTV last night, I saw these amazing gray stressed wood floors.  They looked awesome!

Brooke Giannetti


So I asked him if he liked them.

No.

What exactly do you not like about them?

The grayness.

Hrm, fair enough.

Another thing that comes out with this compromise business is a <bit> of passive aggressiveness on my part.  So when I pull out the old PA to get my way, he asks "Why are you being passive aggressive?". My response?  "Why are you making me be passive aggressive?".

Okay, fine. I have to curtail my extra-girly taste a bit and not get an extra ruffly duvet from Anthropologie. 

And he has to curtail his non-taste (and by this I don't mean he has bad taste, he just doesn't seem to have a taste at all) and not always have this as an answer "whatever is cheapest". 

Of course, this is the marriage that started in mid-2010 with this statement "As long as our wedding doesn't look like a little girl's room".


Rule 42 pinwheels


Miss Ruby Sue fascinators


Little Kitten Homemade bunting

Dreamspun pettiskirt & Rule 42
Ribbon wands I made myself!


Okay, it looks like I get my way most of the time.  The Engineer is a big softy . . . .

Thursday, 16 August 2012

The Art of Small Talk in Uncomfortable Places

The Engineer's new role as Project Manager at a wind farm development company has taken him away from his usual work day hidden alone in a cubicle making spreadsheets and getting power stations to talk to one another (urrmmm, I think that is what he used to do).

He now he has to talk to people.

And not just his co-workers.

He has to talk to landowners and small business owners and government officials and band chiefs of First Nations communities.

The problem with this?  The Engineer is no Chatty Cathy.

Our own conversations consist of me talking and talking and talking.  Telling him of the days events or my feelings about kale or my musings on the recent activity of Coronation Street or my thoughts regarding WW2 (currently I am reading a book about WW2. As soon as I start a new book, I'll have new things to talk at him about).

I feel this is normal.

After all, I grew up in a house where my dad was quiet and my mum talked at him.  In fact my dad is so quiet that when he does get in a chatty mood, I let him talk about tractors or cows or the stock market as much as he wants because I am so excited he is talking. 

I wasn't super surprised when one day the Engineer said he wanted to improve his small-talk skills at work.  His co-worker is amazing at talking to anyone and the Engineer feels he should be the same.  Due to my incredible small talk skills, he wanted to know my secrets.

And I do have incredible small talk skills.

Here is an example:

Sitting in the back of a cab on the way home after wine night at 'book club'

Sarah (to taxi driver):  It's such a nice night. I think spring is on the way

Taxi Driver:  Yes

Sarah:  I love spring.  It means summer is around the corner!

Taxi Driver:  Yes

Sarah:  Sooooo, ummmmm, where are you from?

Taxi Driver:  Somalia.

Sarah:  Oh Somalia.  Lovely country I hear - especially at this time of the year

Taxi Driver:  Not really.

AM I AMAZING OR WHAT???

Who says Somalia is a nice place especially this time of year?  Is it ever nice in a war-torn, poverty stricken, drought-ridden country in Africa?  Noooooooooooo.  That is why we have refugees from there who now drive idiot women who have had too much wine.

Christian Science Monitor

Foreign Policy

Global Security News

Yes.  Beautiful country that Somalia.  I can't imagine why he left.

This is not the only time I have said such incredibly witty things.  I say them sober too.

I am incredibly clever in uncomfortable situations:

While getting my annual bikini wax

Sarah:  That's nice. Where are you from?

Waxer: Iraq

Sarah:  Oh, that's nice.  I would love to go to Iraq. I hear it's gorgeous.

Waxer:  Not really

NY Books

Crazy Man


To be fair, I actually did not start this conversation.  I think that when someone is ripping hair from your  private parts, there should be no conversation at all.

I don't like talking or making eye contact. I certainly don't like it when they ask me to look and make sure it's 'even' and to my satisfaction.  I feel if I don't acknowledge my vagina during a wax, then it does not exist to the waxer as well.  I hate it even more when they ask if I want it done 'behind' too.  UGH!  Just do it and let's pretend that this part of my body is not hairy/exist.

But back to my idiotic Iraq comment.  Firstly, my waxer was telling me how much she loved Canada and was excited to be studying here.  Which naturally made me want to know where she was from.  And because I think you should always say something nice (I remember once telling a girl in England I was from Canada and she said 'I would rather go to America than Canada' and it made me mad) about where someone is from, I said what I said.

What was I supposed to say about Iraq?  Sorry about that evil dictator and the war?

Maybe.

She actually didn't think my statement was odd because Iraq is the setting of a war, more that she said Iraq is an ugly desert. Her words, not mine.

So as much as I would like to give the Engineer some pointers, I may not always be the best example of small talk.

I have some ideas and rules that have been taught to me.  But do I always implement them?  No.

But in the case you want to learn, this is what I told the Engineer:

Be interested, not interesting

People love to talk about themselves so ask them questions.  But pay attention!  Because when someone says they are from Somalia or Iraq - don't answer back a benign response.  That means you aren't really listening.

Then again why would you take my advice? I'm the one who manages to talk about the Iraq war while having my hair pulled out by the roots in a position that can only be described as splayed frog legs.

- Mrs. Law

** I also must admit that Mr. Taxi Driver divulged that he had 8 sons who were naughty and one daughter who was the apple of his eye.  She is going into Grade 5 and loves to read.  Maybe my introductions are bad but I sure do get the story.

**** Also, since this lesson, the Engineer tried it. But his feigned interest and friendliness only confused the landowners. He has since gone back to not talking.